Desiree's Desires, Inc. By now we all know Barbara Walters uses a vibrator. We also know she calls her sex toy “selfie”. That said, my question is: who gives a shit and why is this such a “Hot Topic”? It’s 2014. Why can’t women be open with the fact they have a vibrator or multiple sex toys, enjoy sex, and enjoy the pleasure of a great orgasm?
If you want my take on this, here it is: this country stigmatizes sex and pleasure today as if we were living in the Puritan Colonial era. We all have sex. Babies are born everyday. Yet, nobody is doing it? More significantly, if you are 84 years old, you might as well roll over and die – no sex for you! That is what we are saying by making such a big deal out of Barbara having a vibrator.
Let’s face it, sex and sexual pleasure are still taboo. I help people everyday try to explore their sexuality. Believe me, people need the help. They don’t know what kind of vibrator would benefit them the most. For a species who survives on sex, humans are very under educated on the topic. It’s truly nothing to be afraid of. It’s something that we all do, and enjoyment is part of the process.
My advise: let’s stop pretending sex and sexual pleasure doesn’t exist and embrace it. Try talking about sex with your partners, friends, and even kids. Salt-N-Pepa released “Let’s Talk About Sex” in 1990. Apparently we have not been talking long and hard enough, because 24 years later there is still a general lack of information in this country about sex.
I’m passionate about my job as a sex toy educator and boutique owner. I am happy to answer questions and talk about sex and sex toys with people. I sincerely wish more people would just open their minds, stop being embarrassed, and embrace their sexuality. We must erase the stigma and taboo associated with sex and sex toys. Only then will we be able to truly achieve sexual health and well-being.
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